Helpful Hints

In no particular order. Not all hints will apply to everyone.

• If you are going to take them food, please deliver it in a disposable pan. This way they do not have to remember which dish goes to which person

• Food gift cards are awesome

• Remember to reach out on special dates (anniversary, birthdays, mothers day, Valentines day etc)

• Don’t ask if they need anything from the store. Be more specific (Do you need paper towels or toilet paper? Do you need dog food?)

• Don’t ask too many personal questions (Are you going to keep that big house just for you?)

• Don’t try to fix them

• Listen. Really listen. Be a safe place.

• If you don’t know what to say, it is OK to say “I don’t know what to say”

• Be patient

• Don’t compare their loss to yours. Everyone’s grief is unique